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Do you need years more therapy, or could one conversation resolve the issue?
I’ve been trying to one-shot my clients’ lifelong issues. Occasionally it works.
Feb 28
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Chris Lakin
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Locally optimal psychology
There’s no way that chronic depression, self-loathing, poor agency, or muscle tension could be optimal… right?
Nov 23, 2024
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Chris Lakin
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Learning to do *real* empathy
I lay there, eyes closed, trying to recall a time when I really felt. The question that had been nagging at me for months hung in the air: “What bad…
Oct 16, 2024
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Chris Lakin
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Eye contact is effortless without emotional blocks
So I wanted to run a fun party, “Make 100% eye contact or get sent to jail.” But I didn’t want eye contact to be forced, I wanted it to be genuinely…
Sep 27, 2024
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what becoming more secure does to a mfer
After I quit my first job two years ago, I was conflict-avoidant to the point of depression. I did ~nothing for five months and moved in with my parents…
Aug 22, 2024
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Chris Lakin
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“Try to make me as anxious as possible.”
We had broken up a month earlier, but decided to spend Thanksgiving together as friends. On the first day, she tells me about her new partner. I ask…
Jul 23, 2024
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“Try to make me as anxious as possible.”
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I didn't have to avoid you; I was just insecure
The first time we spoke, you asked me some questions that felt really invasive. I didn’t want that to happen again, so I avoided you the entire…
Jul 18, 2024
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Chris Lakin
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I didn't have to avoid you; I was just insecure
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I created muscle tension to avoid my feelings
I resolved my chronic (3.5y) neck pain two months ago.
Jun 30, 2024
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Chris Lakin
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“if only she liked me back, then everything would be okay” (false)
Previously from Part 1:Previously from part 1: > I couldn’t stop wondering, What had I done to cause her to ghost me? What should I have done instead…
Mar 27, 2024
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Chris Lakin
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“if only she liked me back, then everything would be okay” (false)
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The time I almost dated a subscriber
How I learned I was insecure.
Mar 22, 2024
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Chris Lakin
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Depression was useful?
2022. I was depressed. There’s five months where I couldn’t tell you what I did. I remember wondering during that time, “Why am I so depressed? Why are…
Feb 24, 2024
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