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Learning to do *real* empathy
I lay there, eyes closed, trying to recall a time when I really felt. The question that had been nagging at me for months hung in the air: “What bad…
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Eye contact is effortless without emotional blocks
So I wanted to run a fun party, “Make 100% eye contact or get sent to jail.” But I didn’t want eye contact to be forced, I wanted it to be genuinely…
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“Try to make me as anxious as possible.”
We had broken up a month earlier, but decided to spend Thanksgiving together as friends. On the first day, she tells me about her new partner. I ask…
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I didn't have to avoid you; I was just insecure
The first time we spoke, you asked me some questions that felt really invasive. I didn’t want that to happen again, so I avoided you the entire…
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I created muscle tension to avoid my feelings
I resolved my chronic (3.5y) neck pain two months ago.
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How can I feel okay regardless of how others behave?
Previously from part 1: > I couldn’t stop wondering, What had I done to cause her to ghost me? What should I have done instead? What can I do to make…
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The time I almost dated a subscriber
How I learned I was insecure.
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Depression was useful?
2022. I was depressed. There’s five months where I couldn’t tell you what I did. I remember wondering during that time, “Why am I so depressed? Why are…
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Befriending wild chipmunks is quick and easy!
Today I want you to meet my pal Stripes! Stripes was a wild chipmunk that lived outside of my house in 2019 and 2020, and we were close friends! But…
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