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Bottlenecks to unlearning your anxiety
You’ve been in therapy for years—so why do you still feel anxious all the time?
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Chris Lakin
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Choose Unlearning
There are two ways to manage your anxiety. The first one is to learn a bunch of techniques to subdue it every time it comes up. The second is to unlearn…
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Chris Lakin
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How I'd rewrite The Courage to be Disliked
I read The Courage to be Disliked 7+ times in four years.
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Chris Lakin
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Flirting isn't about convincing
It's about revealing.
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Chris Lakin
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Setting boundaries can feel effortless
Setting boundaries used to feel hard. Like holding up a heavy shield to defend myself — a huge effort!
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Chris Lakin
Aim at what you want, not what you don't
Listen now | Max and Chris discuss how aiming at what you want gets you more of what you want — and how aiming at what you don’t want gets you more of…
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Chris Lakin
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Max Shen
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“Flaky breakthroughs” pervade inner work — but almost no one tracks them
Has someone you know ever had a “breakthrough” from coaching, meditation, or psychedelics — only to later have it fade?
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Chris Lakin
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The happiness underneath
If you’re unhappy, things and experiences will make you happier… right?
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Chris Lakin
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Social anxiety isn't about being liked
There's this popular idea that socially anxious folks are just dying to be liked.
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Chris Lakin
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Progress isn't gradual
Bad days become less frequent before they get better
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Chris Lakin
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Dancing between flow and structure
Chris and Joanna riff: The dance between flow and structure, between openness and commitment between the receptive energy we often call feminine, and…
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Chris Lakin
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Joanna
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Case: Sid, lifelong romantic insecurity
Girlfriend 6 months later
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Chris Lakin
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