Growth

You are happy by default

Happiness is *earned*… right?

May 31 •

10x Therapists, 10x Coaches

The best therapists facilitate 10x faster change than average; the worst therapists make people worse.

May 29 •

Social anxiety isn't about being liked

There's this popular idea that socially anxious folks are just dying to be liked.

May 16 •

Progress = fewer bad moments

Most of my clients start with a tiny misconception that can wreck their progress.

May 7 •

Dancing between flow and structure

Chris and Joanna riff: The dance between flow and structure, between openness and commitment between the receptive energy we often call feminine, and…

Apr 28 •

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Coaching + Bounty model training

I am offering training for:

Mar 26 •

“Expressing attraction feels *fun* now” — how did that happen?

Sid spent years trying to unlearn his socially avoidant behaviors with hundreds of hours of meditation, retreats, and 120 hours of IFS therapy, but he…

Mar 8 •

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Do you need years more therapy, or could one conversation resolve the issue?

I’ve been trying to help clients resolve lifelong issues from one conversation. Occasionally it works.

Feb 28 •

Results-based coaching provides stronger evidence for effectiveness

Most coaches charge hourly. This makes sense: predictable income, easy scheduling, matches industry norms. But paying for results — “bounties” — creates…

Jan 3 •

Antoine’s 1-year follow-up: “I used to get triggered by very small things… Now I just laugh”

Antoine was the first person I ever tried to help in this capacity.

Dec 25, 2024 •

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Bob’s 6-month followup (one-shot)

Last summer, Bob came to me with lifelong anxiety that eight years of therapy hadn’t resolved.

Dec 22, 2024 •

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Being present is not a skill

Some meditation advice has a vibe like...

Dec 18, 2024 •

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