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What if "inner work" optimized for results?
— rather than entertainment, community, obligation, etc.
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Most "inner work" looks like entertainment.
Imagine you’re looking for a personal trainer.
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Your team is avoiding conflict - even the good ones
I’ve been researching team coordination at AI labs.
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everyone I've watched drop their addictions did not try
doomscrolling, vaping, porn, overworking, dating — they were surprised when their addictions stopped happening.
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Breakthroughs Aren’t Results
Everyone’s seen breakthroughs that didn’t last.
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What it’s like to become an intuitive person: Daniel
Daniel, an AI researcher published in Nature, gained ~5h/day after working with me.
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Flirt like it’s predetermined
My mindset shifted from “Flirting to convince others to like me.” to “Flirting to discover who loves my relaxed self.”
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“Wait, feelings are supposed to be IN THE BODY?”
Mentor: “…and how do you feel in your body about that?” Me: “Wait, feelings are supposed to be IN THE BODY?”
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Unlearning one-shots, >1 year later
People can grow quick when they’re ripe for it.
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Why we create our suffering
Locally optimal strategies
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Unlearning is Underrated.
I used to have immense trouble with flirting, saying ‘No’, and “self-acceptance”—and now I don’t.
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Rewriting The Courage to be Disliked
I read The Courage to be Disliked 7+ times in four years.
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