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Learning to do *real* empathy
I lay there, eyes closed, trying to recall a time when I really felt. The question that had been nagging at me for months hung in the air: “What bad…
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Feeling part of a greater whole
Have you ever felt deeply connected to the world around you? Like your effortless existence makes a positive difference?
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What is it like to be psychologically healthy? Podcast ft. Damon Sasi
Damon Sasi is a mentor of mine, and he is also a therapist who claims to be very psychologically healthy.
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Eye contact is effortless without emotional blocks.
Story time! I wanted to run a fun party: "Make 100% eye contact or get sent to jail!" But I didn’t want to force people to make eye contact… I wanted…
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Pay-on-results personal growth: first success
A few months ago I made the claim “Radically effective and rapid growth [motivationally / emotionally / socially] is possible with the right combination…
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Feel how you want, when you want. Pay only if your life changes for the better.
I guide growth for people who have been stuck for years and “tried everything else.”
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what becoming more secure does to a mfer
After I quit my first job two years ago, I was conflict-avoidant to the point of depression. I did ~nothing for five months and moved in with my parents…
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Exposure rarely rules out disasters.
Is there anything you avoid that exposure still hasn’t fixed?
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△ Growth pyramid scheme △
I received the following message not from someone I helped, but from the girlfriend of one of someone I helped:
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“Try to make me as anxious as possible.”
We had broken up a month earlier, but decided to spend Thanksgiving together as friends. On the first day, she tells me about her new partner. I ask…
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I didn't have to avoid you; I was just insecure
The first time we spoke, you asked me some questions that felt really invasive. I didn’t want that to happen again, so I avoided you the entire…
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Untangling the fear of being disliked
Most of the people I help grow— even if they don’t know it at first— are deeply afraid of being disliked by other people. I can tell because once they…
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