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Flirt like it’s predetermined
My mindset shifted from “Flirting to convince others to like me.” to “Flirting to discover who loves my relaxed self.”
Nov 2
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Chris Lakin
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“Wait, feelings are supposed to be IN THE BODY?”
Mentor: “…and how do you feel in your body about that?” Old me: “Wait, feelings are supposed to be IN THE BODY?”
Oct 29
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Chris Lakin
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Unlearning one-shots, 1+ years later
~One-session cases.
Oct 25
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Chris Lakin
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Why we create our suffering
Locally optimal strategies
Oct 22
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Chris Lakin
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Unlearning is Underrated.
We used to have immense trouble with flirting, saying ‘No’, and “self-acceptance”—and now we don’t.
Aug 25
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Chris Lakin
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How I'd rewrite The Courage to be Disliked
I read The Courage to be Disliked 7+ times in four years.
Jul 23
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Chris Lakin
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aim at exactly what you want—or else
Listen now | Max and Chris discuss how aiming at what you want gets you more of what you want — and how aiming at what you don’t want gets you more of…
Jun 6
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Chris Lakin
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Max Shen
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6:38
“Flaky breakthroughs” pervade inner work — but ~no practitioners track them
Has someone you know ever had a “breakthrough” from inner work—only to be no different a few weeks later?
Jun 4
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Chris Lakin
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Happiness underneath
If we’re unhappy, things and experiences will make us happier… right?
Jun 3
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Chris Lakin
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Social anxiety isn't about being liked
There’s this popular idea that socially anxious folks are just dying to be liked.
May 16
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Chris Lakin
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My model of progress was suboptimal
I used to believe that progress with insecurity looks like this—and it fucked me up:
May 6
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Chris Lakin
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Dancing between flow and structure
Listen now (22 mins) | Chris and Joanna riff: The dance between flow and structure, between openness and commitment between the receptive energy we…
Apr 28
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Chris Lakin
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Joanna
14
2
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21:30
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