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Your model of progress is wrong
To my client having a sudden ‘bad day’:
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Conflict anxiety
“Arghhhh! Conflict. Conflict is hard. Conflict will ALWAYS hard. Hunker down and get used to feeling awful!!!”
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Bottlenecks to unlearning therapy-resistant interpersonal anxiety
What do people who have ‘tried everything’ have in common?
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Choose Unlearning
There are two ways to manage your anxiety. The first one is to learn a bunch of techniques to subdue it every time it comes up. The second is to unlearn…
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How I'd rewrite The Courage to be Disliked
I read The Courage to be Disliked 7+ times in four years.
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Flirting isn't about convincing
It's about revealing.
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Boundaries can feel effortless
Setting boundaries used to feel hard. Like holding up a heavy shield to defend myself — a huge effort!
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Aim at what you want, not what you don't
Listen now | Max and Chris discuss how aiming at what you want gets you more of what you want — and how aiming at what you don’t want gets you more of…
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Chris Lakin
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Max Shen
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“Flaky breakthroughs” pervade inner work — but almost no one tracks them
Has someone you know ever had a “breakthrough” from coaching, meditation, or psychedelics — only to later have it fade?
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The happiness underneath
If you’re unhappy, things and experiences will make you happier… right?
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Social anxiety isn't about being liked
There's this popular idea that socially anxious folks are just dying to be liked.
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Dancing between flow and structure
Listen now (22 mins) | Chris and Joanna riff: The dance between flow and structure, between openness and commitment between the receptive energy we…
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Chris Lakin
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Joanna
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