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Breakthroughs Aren’t Results
Everyone’s seen breakthroughs that didn’t last.
 • Chris Lakin
What it’s like to become an intuitive person: Daniel
An AI researcher published in Nature gained 5-6 hours per day after unlearning.
 • Chris Lakin
Flirt like it’s predetermined
My mindset shifted from “Flirting to convince others to like me.” to “Flirting to discover who loves my relaxed self.”
 • Chris Lakin
“Wait, feelings are supposed to be IN THE BODY?”
Mentor: “…and how do you feel in your body about that?” Me: “Wait, feelings are supposed to be IN THE BODY?”
 • Chris Lakin
Unlearning one-shots, >1 year later
People can grow quick when they’re ripe for it.
 • Chris Lakin
Why we create our suffering
Locally optimal strategies
 • Chris Lakin
Unlearning is Underrated.
I used to have immense trouble with flirting, saying ‘No’, and “self-acceptance”—and now I don’t.
 • Chris Lakin
Rewriting The Courage to be Disliked
I read The Courage to be Disliked 7+ times in four years.
 • Chris Lakin
aim at exactly what you want—or else
Listen now | Max and Chris discuss how aiming at what you want gets you more of what you want — and how aiming at what you don’t want gets you more of…
 • Chris Lakin and Max Shen
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Flaky breakthroughs pervade inner work. Almost no practitioners track outcomes
Has someone you know ever had a “breakthrough” from inner work—only to be no different a few weeks later?
 • Chris Lakin
Happiness underneath
If we’re unhappy, things and experiences will make us happier… right?
 • Chris Lakin
Social anxiety isn't about being liked
There’s this popular idea that socially anxious folks are just dying to be liked.
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