Human Alignment

Progress = Fewer Bad Moments

Most of my clients start with a tiny misconception that can wreck their progress.

May 7 •

The Dance Between Flow and Structure

Chris and Joanna riff: The dance between flow and structure, between openness and commitment between the receptive energy we often call feminine, and…

Apr 28 •

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Coaching + Bounty Model Training

I am offering training for:

Mar 26 •

“Expressing attraction feels *fun* now” — How did that happen?

Sid spent years trying to unlearn his socially avoidant behaviors with hundreds of hours of meditation, retreats, and 120 hours of IFS therapy, but he…

Mar 8 •

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Do you need years more therapy, or could one conversation resolve the issue?

I’ve been trying to one-shot my clients’ lifelong issues. Occasionally it works.

Feb 28 •

Results-based coaching provides stronger evidence for effectiveness

Most coaches charge hourly. This makes sense: predictable income, easy scheduling, matches industry norms. But paying for results — “bounties” — creates…

Jan 3 •

Incentive Aligned: Resolve Your Lifelong Issue

Payment is forbidden until you feel genuinely satisfied.

Dec 28, 2024 •

“I used to get triggered by very small things… Now I just laugh” —Antoine

Antoine was the first person I ever tried to help in this capacity.

Dec 25, 2024 •

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One of my new friends said, “You’re so adventurous.” —Bob

Last summer, Bob came to me with lifelong anxiety that eight years of therapy hadn’t resolved.

Dec 22, 2024 •

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Being Present is Not a Skill

Some meditation advice has a vibe like...

Dec 18, 2024 •

Just one more exposure bro

“Just expose yourself to more social situations!” — Ah yes, you felt anxious the first 100 times, but the 101st will be the breakthrough!

Dec 12, 2024 •

Locally optimal psychology

There’s no way that chronic depression, self-loathing, poor agency, or muscle tension could be optimal… right?

Nov 23, 2024 •

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