Growth

How I'd rewrite The Courage to be Disliked

I read The Courage to be Disliked 7+ times in four years.

Jul 23 •

It's not “convincing”, it’s *revealing*.

Jul 11 •

Setting boundaries can feel effortless

Setting boundaries used to feel hard. Like holding up a heavy shield to defend myself — a huge effort!

Jul 7 •

Aim at what you want, not what you don't

Listen now | Max and Chris discuss how aiming at what you want gets you more of what you want — and how aiming at what you don’t want gets you more of…

Jun 6 •

and

6:38

“Flaky breakthroughs” pervade coaching — but no one tracks them

Has someone you know ever had a “breakthrough” from coaching, meditation, or psychedelics — only to later have it fade?

Jun 4 •

The happiness underneath

If you’re unhappy, things and experiences will make you happier… right?

Jun 3 •

Social anxiety isn't about being liked

There's this popular idea that socially anxious folks are just dying to be liked.

May 16 •

Progress isn't gradual

Bad days get rarer before they get better

May 7 •

Dancing between flow and structure

Chris and Joanna riff: The dance between flow and structure, between openness and commitment between the receptive energy we often call feminine, and…

Apr 28 •

and

21:30

Case: Sid, lifelong romantic insecurity

Girlfriend 6 months later

Mar 8 •

10:50

Years more therapy, or one conversation?

It took too long to outgrow the worst of my anxiety.

Feb 28 •

Case: Antoine, lifelong oversensitivity

12-month follow-up

Dec 25, 2024 •

13:23

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