Social interaction and growth

what becoming more secure does to a mfer

After I quit my first job two years ago, I was conflict-avoidant to the point of depression. I did ~nothing for five months and moved in with my parents…

Aug 22 •

Exposure can’t rule out disasters.

Is there anything you avoid that exposure still hasn’t fixed?

Aug 14 •

1/ Learn how to help individuals grow seamlessly, radically, rapidly. 2/ Scale the process with AI (if necessary). 3/ Unblock global coordination and…

Aug 9 •

△ Growth pyramid scheme △

I received the following message not from one of my clients, but from the girlfriend of one of my clients:

Aug 6 •

“Try to make me as anxious as possible.”

We had broken up a month earlier, but decided to spend Thanksgiving together as friends. On the first day, she tells me about her new partner. I ask…

Jul 23 •

I didn't have to avoid you; I was just insecure

The first time we spoke, you asked me some questions that felt really invasive. I didn’t want that to happen again, so I avoided you the entire…

Jul 18 •

Untangling the fear of being disliked

Most of the people I help grow— even if they don’t know it at first— are deeply afraid of being disliked by other people. I can tell because once they…

Jul 13 •

Yes, even self-loathing has a payoff

Let’s systematize how to overcome self-loathing. I used to think self-loathing was just bad. Then I realized it was trying to protect me. I felt pretty…

Jul 9 •

Growth is fingerprint-shaped

Everyone has a unique set of unconscious predictions that need updating, yet virtually everyone I’ve helped grow has had their deepest confusions in the…

Jul 8 •

Why growth can be hard: Unconscious Predictions

Ever wanted to approach someone at a party but stayed glued to the snack table instead?

Jul 6 •

I created muscle tension to avoid my feelings

I resolved my chronic (3.5y) neck pain two months ago.

Jun 30 •

Emotional security overhaul

“This session was significantly more productive than my last 6 months of CBT and talk therapy.” —Camille.

Jun 16 •

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