I’m more active on Twitter these days: @ChrisChipMonk

Updated May 2025. Recently I’ve been excited about:

• “Human alignment”, helping others resolve lifelong insecurity

• Incentive-aligned businesses

• AI alignment philosophy, building aligned AI

• Running unhinged social events, eg Extreme Awkwardness

• Writing, tweeting

• Matchmaking

My research is self-directed.

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June 17, 2024

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Writing

Social Anxiety Isn’t About Being Liked

Chris Lakin

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May 16

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Do you need years more therapy, or could one conversation resolve the issue?

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Feb 28

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Progress = Fewer Bad Moments

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May 7

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Unhinged social events

I run unusual social events: Extreme Awkwardness, Intentionally Awkward Flirting, Make Eye Contact or Go to Jail, dog massage, Successful Matchmakers Meetup, …

People enjoy horror movies. Does that mean they will enjoy ‘horror events’?

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December 22, 2024

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Aligned AI

Alignment First, Intelligence Later: A Teleological Turn in AI

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Mar 30

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AI Alignment Inspired by Human Alignment

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June 24, 2024

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“How do parts form a whole?”

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November 26, 2024

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Matchmaking

I’ve been experimenting a lot with matchmaking my friends, focusing on friends in their early 30s who want kids asap:

(Also, many other matchmaking experiments… 1 2 3.)

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