What I’m doing now (as of May 22, 2024)

I research the physics of social interaction. For humans—

—and also for aligned AIs.

Events in SF


May 20, 2024. Retrospective.
March 14, 2024. Tweet.
March 29, 2024

Get notified of my next event by email: chrislakin.events

If you’d like to cohost an event, let me know.


Do you want other people to treat you better, or would you rather have a sense of internal security where it doesn’t matter what others do? I facilitate this shift for others. My ultimate goal is to learn how to facilitate secure attachment and its integration in a single session, even if I can't completely do that right now.

My rate is “25% of the value you get from it, as assessed by you in 3–12 months” or equity. E.g. $50k → $12.5k, $0 → $0.

My one session with Chris was significantly more productive than the prior 6 months of CBT and talk therapy I did, put together

Within just a few hours we made a tangible difference in how secure I feel.

Right now I’m mostly focusing on founders. Email.

More ways to connect with me

If you like my blog, you'll probably like me.

  • Email me spontaneously.

  • Twitter me.

  • I’ll be visiting Prague, Geneva, and Helsinki in June.


  • My tweet about an event went viral and inspired a similar event in NYC (2). That event also inspired a whole series of events in Toronto (2).

  • Intuitive bodywork: stretching and flexibility, massage, calisthenics, partner stretching

  • Vibes I like

    • abstract and technical yet playful and silly (kiki x bouba). Intuition. Holistic curiosity.

    • “taking heavy things lightly”, “Here’s something we usually avoid. Let’s head straight for it.”

  • I’ve eaten mostly only meat since 2020

  • When I have kids

  • Q: How can teleology and etiology be unified?

  • collective intelligence — How do groups coordinate while defending themselves from internal cancers?

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