Conjectures about growth

1. Most people would get significantly better at friendship, romance, sex, agency, productivity, startups, and communication if only they untangled their main emotional insecurities.

   Untangling the fear of being disliked

2. For many, it is possible to become secure in a few hours with excellent facilitation.

   Pay-on-results personal growth: first success

3. You can ‘solve’ many conflicts you have with other people just by untangling your own emotional insecurities. No need to involve the other party! Example:

   I didn’t have to avoid you; I was just insecure

4. Behaving and feeling unenlightened (e.g., experiencing the conscious and unconscious as very separate, having emotional insecurities, experiencing ego, having emotional problems, self-loathing, etc.) is a useful strategy in many common social environments.

5. Individual growth may seem difficult and slow, but this is mostly just a side effect of individuals blocking efficient communication with their unconscious.

6. It is best to assume that you’re already self-loving and “trying your best”. It is best to assume mistake theory before conflict theory for yourself and others. 

7. Many social phenomena are the result of self-fulfilling prophecies (ie: mental predictions that prove themselves). For example, if you expect that a particular person might dislike or distrust you, that might cause them to dislike/distrust you.

   [draft] self-fulfilling prophecies in social interaction

8. “Morality” is fundamentally about cooperation with others.

   Feeling part of a greater whole

9. The experience of suffering is mainly the result of a mental self-fulfilling prophecy.

Thanks to Stag Lynn, Alex Zhu, Kaj Sotala, Damon Sasi, Anna Salamon, Brian Toomey, CFAR, Epistea Residency, Nolan Kent, and many more for mentorship and support.

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Principles for growth