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Bottlenecks to unlearning your anxiety
You’ve been in therapy for years—so why do you still feel anxious all the time?
Sep 6
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Chris Lakin
24
1
August 2025
Choose Unlearning
There are two ways to manage your anxiety. The first one is to learn a bunch of techniques to subdue it every time it comes up. The second is to unlearn…
Aug 25
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Chris Lakin
61
1
July 2025
How I'd rewrite The Courage to be Disliked
I read The Courage to be Disliked 7+ times in four years.
Jul 23
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Chris Lakin
106
10
Flirting isn't about convincing
It's about revealing.
Jul 11
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Chris Lakin
55
2
Setting boundaries can feel effortless
Setting boundaries used to feel hard. Like holding up a heavy shield to defend myself — a huge effort!
Jul 7
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Chris Lakin
35
June 2025
Aim at what you want, not what you don't
Listen now | Max and Chris discuss how aiming at what you want gets you more of what you want — and how aiming at what you don’t want gets you more of…
Jun 6
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Chris Lakin
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Max Shen
23
1
6:38
“Flaky breakthroughs” pervade inner work — but almost no one tracks them
Has someone you know ever had a “breakthrough” from coaching, meditation, or psychedelics — only to later have it fade?
Jun 4
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Chris Lakin
39
5
The happiness underneath
If you’re unhappy, things and experiences will make you happier… right?
Jun 3
•
Chris Lakin
43
10
May 2025
Social anxiety isn't about being liked
There's this popular idea that socially anxious folks are just dying to be liked.
May 16
•
Chris Lakin
278
11
Progress isn't gradual
Bad days become less frequent before they get better
May 7
•
Chris Lakin
62
7
April 2025
Dancing between flow and structure
Chris and Joanna riff: The dance between flow and structure, between openness and commitment between the receptive energy we often call feminine, and…
Apr 28
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Chris Lakin
and
Joanna
13
21:30
March 2025
Alignment first, intelligence later
Now that Softmax, my favorite new AI company, is public, I can finally share this.
Mar 30
•
Chris Lakin
16
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