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How I’d rewrite The Courage to be Disliked
I read The Courage to be Disliked 7+ times in four years.
Jul 23
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Chris Lakin
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This mindset makes flirting easier
> Whether you’re romantically compatible is predetermined. Flirting isn’t “convincing”, it’s *revealing*
Jul 11
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Chris Lakin
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Setting boundaries can feel effortless btw
Setting boundaries used to feel hard. Like holding up a heavy shield to defend myself — a huge effort!
Jul 7
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Chris Lakin
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June 2025
Self-acceptance isn't something you learn
I used to believe that “self-acceptance” was a learnable skill, something you could do. If I focused on it, surely I could “just accept myself”? So I…
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Jun 26
Aim at what you want!
Listen now | Max and Chris discuss how aiming at what you want gets you more of what you want — and how aiming at what you don’t want gets you more of…
Jun 6
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Chris Lakin
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Max Shen
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“Flaky breakthroughs” pervade coaching — but no one tracks them
Has someone you know ever had a “breakthrough” from coaching, meditation, or psychedelics — only to later have it fade?
Jun 4
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Chris Lakin
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“Flaky breakthroughs” pervade coaching — but no one tracks them
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You are happy by default
If you’re unhappy, things and experiences will make you happier… right?
Jun 3
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Chris Lakin
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May 2025
Social anxiety isn't about being liked
There's this popular idea that socially anxious folks are just dying to be liked.
May 16
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Chris Lakin
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Progress = fewer bad moments
Most people I help start with a tiny misconception that can wreck their progress.
May 7
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Chris Lakin
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April 2025
Dancing between flow and structure
Chris and Joanna riff: The dance between flow and structure, between openness and commitment between the receptive energy we often call feminine, and…
Apr 28
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Chris Lakin
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Joanna
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March 2025
Alignment first, intelligence later
Now that Softmax, my favorite new AI company, is public, I can finally share this.
Mar 30
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Chris Lakin
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Mar 26
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Chris Lakin
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