One-shot Unlearning

One-session cases with 1+ year follow-up data

Oct 25 • 

Chris Lakin

83

2

Why we create suffering

Locally optimal strategies

Oct 22 • 

Chris Lakin

112

September 2025

Your model of progress is wrong

To my client abruptly experiencing a bad day:

Sep 30 • 

Chris Lakin

100

8

Conflict anxiety

“Arghhhh! Conflict. Conflict is hard. Conflict will ALWAYS hard. Hunker down and get used to feeling awful!!!”

Sep 25 • 

Chris Lakin

50

7

Bottlenecks to unlearning therapy-resistant insecurity

What do people who thought they had ‘tried everything’ for their insecurity have in common?

Sep 6 • 

Chris Lakin

97

7

August 2025

Unlearning is underrated

There are two ways to manage anxiety.

Aug 25 • 

Chris Lakin

94

July 2025

How I'd rewrite The Courage to be Disliked

I read The Courage to be Disliked 7+ times in four years.

Jul 23 • 

Chris Lakin

119

10

Flirting isn't about convincing

Flirting is revealing.

Jul 11 • 

Chris Lakin

79

2

Boundaries can feel effortless btw

Setting boundaries used to feel hard. Like holding up a heavy shield to defend myself — a huge effort!

Jul 7 • 

Chris Lakin

40

June 2025

aim ONLY at things you want

Listen now | Max and Chris discuss how aiming at what you want gets you more of what you want — and how aiming at what you don’t want gets you more of…

Jun 6 • 

Chris Lakin

 and 

Max Shen

27

1

6:38

“Flaky breakthroughs” pervade inner work — but almost no one tracks them

Has someone you know ever had a “breakthrough” from coaching, meditation, or psychedelics — only to later have it fade?

Jun 4 • 

Chris Lakin

48

5

Happiness underneath

If we’re unhappy, things and experiences will make us happier… right?

Jun 3 • 

Chris Lakin

46

10