Bottlenecks to unlearning your anxiety

You’ve been in therapy for years—so why do you still feel anxious all the time?

Sep 6 • 

Chris Lakin

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6

August 2025

Choose Unlearning

There are two ways to manage your anxiety. The first one is to learn a bunch of techniques to subdue it every time it comes up. The second is to unlearn…

Aug 25 • 

Chris Lakin

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1

July 2025

How I'd rewrite The Courage to be Disliked

I read The Courage to be Disliked 7+ times in four years.

Jul 23 • 

Chris Lakin

113

10

Flirting isn't about convincing

It's about revealing.

Jul 11 • 

Chris Lakin

63

2

Setting boundaries can feel effortless

Setting boundaries used to feel hard. Like holding up a heavy shield to defend myself — a huge effort!

Jul 7 • 

Chris Lakin

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June 2025

Aim at what you want, not what you don't

Listen now | Max and Chris discuss how aiming at what you want gets you more of what you want — and how aiming at what you don’t want gets you more of…

Jun 6 • 

Chris Lakin

 and 

Max Shen

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1

6:38

“Flaky breakthroughs” pervade inner work — but almost no one tracks them

Has someone you know ever had a “breakthrough” from coaching, meditation, or psychedelics — only to later have it fade?

Jun 4 • 

Chris Lakin

42

5

The happiness underneath

If you’re unhappy, things and experiences will make you happier… right?

Jun 3 • 

Chris Lakin

45

10

May 2025

Social anxiety isn't about being liked

There's this popular idea that socially anxious folks are just dying to be liked.

May 16 • 

Chris Lakin

286

12

Progress isn't gradual

Bad days become less frequent before they get better

May 7 • 

Chris Lakin

66

7

April 2025

Dancing between flow and structure

Chris and Joanna riff: The dance between flow and structure, between openness and commitment between the receptive energy we often call feminine, and…

Apr 28 • 

Chris Lakin

 and 

Joanna

13

21:30

March 2025

Alignment first, intelligence later

Now that Softmax, my favorite new AI company, is public, I can finally share this.

Mar 30 • 

Chris Lakin

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