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Social anxiety isn't about being liked
There's this popular idea that socially anxious folks are just dying to be liked.
May 16
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Chris Lakin
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Progress = fewer bad moments
Most of my clients start with a tiny misconception that can wreck their progress.
May 7
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Chris Lakin
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April 2025
Dancing between flow and structure
Chris and Joanna riff: The dance between flow and structure, between openness and commitment between the receptive energy we often call feminine, and…
Apr 28
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March 2025
Alignment first, intelligence later
Now that Softmax—my favorite new AI company—is public, I can finally share this.
Mar 30
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Chris Lakin
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Coaching + Bounty model training
I am offering training for:
Mar 26
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Chris Lakin
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“Expressing attraction feels *fun* now” — how did that happen?
Sid spent years trying to unlearn his socially avoidant behaviors with hundreds of hours of meditation, retreats, and 120 hours of IFS therapy, but he…
Mar 8
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Chris Lakin
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“Expressing attraction feels *fun* now” — how did that happen?
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February 2025
Do you need years more therapy, or could one conversation resolve the issue?
I’ve been trying to help clients resolve lifelong issues from one conversation. Occasionally it works.
Feb 28
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Chris Lakin
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Do you need years more therapy, or could one conversation resolve the issue?
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January 2025
Unusual ways to run unusual events
I run many unusual events. But making them go well requires unusual planning! Some of my favorite ways:
Jan 19
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Chris Lakin
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Results-based coaching provides stronger evidence for effectiveness
Most coaches charge hourly. This makes sense: predictable income, easy scheduling, matches industry norms. But paying for results — “bounties” — creates…
Jan 3
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Chris Lakin
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December 2024
Antoine’s 1-year follow-up: “I used to get triggered by very small things… Now I just laugh”
Antoine was the first person I ever tried to help in this capacity.
Dec 25, 2024
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Chris Lakin
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Antoine’s 1-year follow-up: “I used to get triggered by very small things… Now I just laugh”
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People enjoy horror movies. Does that mean they will enjoy ‘horror events’?
Would you enjoy this one?
Dec 22, 2024
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Chris Lakin
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Bob’s 6-month followup (one-shot)
Last summer, Bob came to me with lifelong anxiety that eight years of therapy hadn’t resolved.
Dec 22, 2024
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Chris Lakin
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