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“Try to make me as anxious as possible.”
We had broken up a month earlier, but decided to spend Thanksgiving together as friends. On the first day, she tells me about her new partner. I ask…
Jul 23
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I didn't have to avoid you; I was just insecure
The first time we spoke, you asked me some questions that felt really invasive. I didn’t want that to happen again, so I avoided you the entire…
Jul 18
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Untangling the fear of being disliked
Most of the people I help grow— even if they don’t know it at first— are deeply afraid of being disliked by other people. I can tell because once they…
Jul 13
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Yes, even self-loathing has a payoff
Let’s systematize how to overcome self-loathing. I used to think self-loathing was just bad. Then I realized it was trying to protect me. I felt pretty…
Jul 9
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Growth is fingerprint-shaped
Everyone has a unique set of unconscious predictions that need updating, yet virtually everyone I’ve helped grow has had their deepest confusions in the…
Jul 8
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Why growth can be hard: Unconscious Predictions
Ever wanted to approach someone at a party but stayed glued to the snack table instead? Or hit snooze on your new exercise routine, day after day?
Jul 6
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List of Collective Intelligence Projects
During the last Foresight Intelligent Cooperation Workshop I got very curious about what collective intelligence tools currently exist. A list: Pol.is…
Jul 2
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June 2024
I created muscle tension to avoid my feelings
I resolved my chronic (3.5y) neck pain two months ago. Now it’s obvious to me that I was creating the tension all along. Here’s my model of what was…
Jun 30
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Social interaction-inspired AI alignment
Conjecture: Understanding the psychology of human social interaction will help with AI alignment. And personally, I think this will likely form a…
Jun 24
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Become More Emotionally Secure (Experimental)
I help people become more emotionally secure with my research. Most feel significantly more secure after a single conversation. "This session was…
Jun 16
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Psychological issues often have an immediate payoff
1/ It can be extremely valuable to view psychological issues as having an immediate payoff. For example, depression, anxiety, insecurity, failure at…
Jun 10
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rapid psychological growth
After a one-hour session with an exceptional counselor, I never suffered over that romantic incident again. Although, that’s inaccurate, I also had 2x…
Jun 5
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