Your team is avoiding conflict - even the good ones

I’ve been researching team coordination at AI labs.

Apr 13 • Chris Lakin

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March 2026

everyone I've watched drop their addictions did not try

doomscrolling, vaping, porn, overworking, dating — they were surprised when their addictions stopped happening.

Mar 29 • Chris Lakin

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January 2026

What it’s like to become an intuitive person: Daniel

Daniel, an AI researcher published in Nature, gained ~5h/day after working with me.

Jan 28 • Chris Lakin

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December 2025

What went wrong when I matchmade my friends

74 of my friends were single and looking.

Dec 19, 2025 • Chris Lakin

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November 2025

Flirt like it’s predetermined

My mindset shifted from “Flirting to convince others to like me.” to “Flirting to discover who loves my relaxed self.”

Nov 2, 2025 • Chris Lakin

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October 2025

“Wait, feelings are supposed to be IN THE BODY?”

Mentor: “…and how do you feel in your body about that?” Me: “Wait, feelings are supposed to be IN THE BODY?”

Oct 29, 2025 • Chris Lakin

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Unlearning one-shots, >1 year later

People can grow quick when they’re ripe for it.

Oct 25, 2025 • Chris Lakin

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Why we create our suffering

Locally optimal strategies

Oct 22, 2025 • Chris Lakin

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August 2025

Unlearning is Underrated.

I used to have immense trouble with flirting, saying ‘No’, and “self-acceptance”—and now I don’t.

Aug 25, 2025 • Chris Lakin

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July 2025

Rewriting The Courage to be Disliked

I read The Courage to be Disliked 7+ times in four years.

Jul 23, 2025 • Chris Lakin

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June 2025

Flaky breakthroughs pervade inner work. Almost no practitioners track outcomes

Has someone you know ever had a “breakthrough” from inner work—only to be no different a few weeks later?

Jun 4, 2025 • Chris Lakin

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Happiness underneath

If we’re unhappy, things and experiences will make us happier… right?

Jun 3, 2025 • Chris Lakin

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