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Video: Sid, fun expressing romantic attraction

Previously, Sid was unable to unlearn his avoidant behaviors with hundreds of hours of meditation, multiple retreats, and 120 hours of IFS therapy.

UPDATE: 6 months after end work together:

Screenshot of a text message conversation. Chris Lakin sends "Checking in for long-term bounty data collection: How's everything?..." Sid replies "Yep, everything is great. I have a girlfriend now. We met in person and I asked her out. I'm happy in the relationship." Chris responds "OMG. So happy for you!" Sid replies "Thank you! Yeah, working with you definitely played a big part. So definitely count it as a win for your work"
All conversations are confidential by default.

Timestamps

0:00: Expressing attraction is fun and easy now
1:39: Recent example
2:50: Physical touch
3:34: Staying with tension
4:10: Unexpected benefits in other relationships (startup, friends, family)
4:55: Expressing disagreements at work
5:32: Example: Texting friends "I miss you" without pretense
5:50: Example: Expressing anger to his mother
6:42: Different than previous coaching/therapy
7:40: The technique as a "visualization loop" with many reps
9:24: "feels like magic, but… you gotta actually put in the work"
12:10: Previous therapy attempts: IFS, retreats, meditation
14:17: The bounty model let him bring his most important problem
15:15: "Four retreats worth of value"
15:32: Questions for Chris

To protect Sid’s identity, his voice has been transformed with AI.

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