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Lab researcher started asking people out, sharing disagreements with colleagues, texting friends “I miss you.”

Update: In a happy relationship now

Seven years of meditation, hundreds of hours of IFS therapy, retreats, etc. hadn’t gotten this AI lab researcher the results he wanted. The romantic bounty also flowed over to the rest of his life—eg, he started disagreeing with his cofounder at the time and even his mom.

Screenshot of an X (Twitter)Chris Lakin @ChrischipMonkOctober 25, 2025123K views"extreme example: guy came for approach anxiety, went home, immediately fell asleep (at 5pm!), woke up with muscle soreness. within two weeks he'd asked out multiple crushes. several months later he asked out his gf" This tweet includes a quote of a tweet from Richard Ludlow (@richardludlow)"My conclusion from trying many healing modalities over the past two years is that the feeling of 'holy shit, that was profound!' is a surprisingly weak predictor of tangible lasting benefits, but physical tension dropping away in a new way is a strong predictor." The phrase "physical tension dropping away in a new way" is highlighted in a pink/salmon-colored box.
Screenshot of a Signal conversation. Chris Lakin sent "Checking in for long-term bounty data collection: How's everything?..." Sid replied "Yep, everything is great. I have a girlfriend now. We met in person and I asked her out. I'm happy in the relationship."

Update 2026.05: They recently celebrated one year :)

Note: There’s more I can tell you about this person and our work influenced his career if you ask me privately.

Note: To preserve privacy, Sid’s voice was modified.

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