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Case: Sid, lifelong romantic insecurity

In a relationship now

And now I think it's just feels much more like, oh, okay, here's somebody who I like. And I'm gonna just express however it is that I'm feeling in the moment.

Sid’s avoidant behaviors had been resistant to years of IFS therapy and meditation.

UPDATE 6 months after last session:

Screenshot of a Signal conversation. Chris Lakin sent "Checking in for long-term bounty data collection: How's everything?..." Sid replied "Yep, everything is great. I have a girlfriend now. We met in person and I asked her out. I'm happy in the relationship."

To protect Sid’s identity, his voice has been transformed with AI.

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Screenshot of an X (Twitter)Chris Lakin @ChrischipMonkOctober 25, 2025123K views"extreme example: guy came for approach anxiety, went home, immediately fell asleep (at 5pm!), woke up with muscle soreness. within two weeks he'd asked out multiple crushes. several months later he asked out his gf" This tweet includes a quote of a tweet from Richard Ludlow (@richardludlow)"My conclusion from trying many healing modalities over the past two years is that the feeling of 'holy shit, that was profound!' is a surprisingly weak predictor of tangible lasting benefits, but physical tension dropping away in a new way is a strong predictor." The phrase "physical tension dropping away in a new way" is highlighted in a pink/salmon-colored box.

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