“Expressing attraction feels *fun* now” — How did that happen?

Sid spent years trying to unlearn his socially avoidant behaviors with hundreds of hours of meditation, retreats, and 120 hours of IFS therapy, but he didn’t resolve his issue until he spent a few hours talking to me. He placed a bounty in August to resolve his romantic blocks, and paid it in January. According to Sid, “expressing attraction feels fun now,” and he’s communicating more freely with everybody else in his life.

We chat about his growth, and how less than 9 hours with me helped the rest of his efforts click into place.

Timestamps

0:00: Expressing attraction is fun and easy now
1:39: Recent example
2:50: Physical touch
3:34: Staying with tension
4:10: Unexpected benefits in other relationships: startup, friends, family
4:55: Expressing disagreements at work
5:32: Example: Texting friends "I miss you" without pretense
5:50: Example: Expressing anger to his mother
6:42: Different than previous coaching/therapy
7:40: The technique as a "visualization loop" with many reps
9:24: "feels like magic, but… you gotta actually put in the work"
12:10: Previous therapy attempts: IFS, retreats, meditation
14:17: The bounty model let him bring his most important problem
15:15: "Got four retreats worth of value" in a compressed timeline
15:32: Questions for me

Place a bounty at incentivealigned.com or send me an email chris@chrislakin.com