Incentive Aligned: Resolve Your Lifelong Issue
UPDATED 2025 May: At the founding, this service was "100% bounty" — payment literally forbidden until results.
I learned two things from this experiment:
First, there are people who are best served by more routine paths, like talk therapy or self-help apps, and then there are people who are serious.
Second, even with serious people, results require both our inputs: my insight and your effort.
The structure now reflects this.
Payment is committed: half at beginning, and half at bounty, at the time of your genuine satisfaction with results.
You may choose from two tiers:
$12k — for 8 weeks of advising, with substantial take-home work
$30k — for 8 weeks of premium advising, with the same significant take-home, plus priority response time
The goal: align financial incentives with desired outcomes.
If you are unable to commit, follow the extensive guidance I publish for free.
I help people like old me become secure and outgrow all anxiety, insecurity, and validation-seeking behavior. Romantic confidence is most common.
My clients are mostly founders, AI people, and highly agentic individuals. This is for people who have already tried — therapy, meditation, etc. — and failed. Before/after videos below.
Long-Term Reviews
A man at a prediction market conference had been stuck despite 8 years of therapy and 1 year of seeking “scary situations”. In one session he learned how to become secure. Six months later:
One of my new friends said, “You're so adventurous.” That shocked me… If you were to ask my high school friends that’s not a word they would use.
Every week I had some new ridiculous, fun, stupid project that I had others rallied around. It's exactly the stuff I kind of pictured doing but never really did.
A man had been stuck despite trying talk therapy, CBT, and IFS. In three sessions he learned how to become secure. One year later:
I used to get triggered by very small things that some of the people surrounding me would say or do… would incapacitate me for 48 hours, I would have to shut myself in my room. Now I just laugh…
A founder in SF had been stuck despite years of IFS therapy, retreats, and meditation. Five sessions later:
Previously, I would freeze up or feel anxious about how I should act. And now I think it's just feels much more like, oh, okay, here's somebody who I like. And I'm gonna just express however it is that I'm feeling in the moment. And I'm just having more fun.
Expressing attraction feels fun now.
A man had been stuck despite trying most of the tpot meditation advice:
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A founder in SF who previously tried 100s of hours of meditation and other coaching:
Periods of flow in everyday life are more frequent and reliable than ever.
I’m less nervous and tense around people.
A woman in tech had previously tried multiple therapists, countless books, and antidepressants:
I don't feel my life or my relationship is in crisis anymore. Things feel light and hopeful.
An engineer now experiences significantly more flow while working.
A man with a multi-decade porn addiction has not felt compelled in 6mo.
The 2% of my life feels more like 0.2% now. Only took 2–3 weeks, surprisingly.
A woman in SF tech is no longer a pushover!
Having engaged in 9+ years of coaching and therapy with varying levels of success, I’m probably one of the toughest clients
A founder had the first week in his life without procrastination.
An AI engineer avoids fewer conflicts and expresses more professional disagreements.
A consultant no longer overcommits to stuff she doesn’t actually want to do.
An AI policy researcher is handling a new major role that he would’ve previously found overwhelming:
I can now say no to things that don't serve me.
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Inspired by Predictive Processing
The approach draws from predictive processing (“the brain is a multi-layer prediction machine” —Scott Alexander), Alfred Adler, and independent research. Most interpersonal issues can be resolved by unlearning locally optimal insecurities.
I Am Not A Therapist. (Ironically, I train therapists.) This service supports personal growth and professional development; it is not therapy or medical treatment. Confidentiality: I use shared information to improve practice; identifying details always remain confidential.