Get back to secure (incentive-aligned)
UPDATED 2025 MAY: At the founding, this service was "100% bounty" — payment literally forbidden until long-term results.
I learned two things from this experiment:
First, there are people who are best served by more routine paths, like talk therapy or self-help apps, and then there are people who are serious.
Second, even with serious people, results require both our inputs: my insight and your effort.
The structure now reflects this.
Payment is committed: half at beginning, and half at bounty, at the time of your genuine satisfaction with results.
You may choose from two tiers:
$12k — for 8 weeks of advising, with substantial take-home work
$30k — for 8 weeks of premium advising, with the same significant take-home, plus priority response time
The goal: align financial incentives with desired outcomes.
If you are unable to commit, you may follow the extensive guidance I publish for free.
I help people like old me get back to secure by unlearning all insecurities, anxiety, and validation-seeking behavior. Romantic confidence is most common.
My clients are mostly founders, AI people, and highly agentic individuals. Best when years of therapy and meditation did not resolve the issue. Before/after videos below.
Long-Term Reviews
A man at a prediction market conference had been stuck despite 8 years of therapy and 1 year of seeking “scary situations”. In one session he learned how to unlearn insecurities. Six months later:
One of my new friends said, “You're so adventurous.” That shocked me… If you were to ask my high school friends that’s not a word they would use.
Every week I had some new ridiculous, fun, stupid project that I had others rallied around. It's exactly the stuff I kind of pictured doing but never really did.
A man had been stuck despite trying talk therapy, CBT, and IFS. In three sessions he learned how to unlearn insecurities. One year later:
I used to get triggered by very small things that some of the people surrounding me would say or do… would incapacitate me for 48 hours, I would have to shut myself in my room. Now I just laugh…
A founder in SF had been stuck despite years of IFS therapy, retreats, and meditation. Five sessions later:
Previously, I would freeze up or feel anxious about how I should act. And now I think it's just feels much more like, oh, okay, here's somebody who I like. And I'm gonna just express however it is that I'm feeling in the moment. And I'm just having more fun.
Expressing attraction feels fun now.
A man had been stuck despite trying most of the tpot meditation advice:
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A founder in SF who previously tried 100s of hours of meditation and other coaching:
Periods of flow in everyday life are more frequent and reliable than ever.
I’m less nervous and tense around people.
A woman in tech had previously tried multiple therapists, countless books, and antidepressants:
I don't feel my life or my relationship is in crisis anymore. Things feel light and hopeful.
An engineer now experiences significantly more flow while working.
A man with a multi-decade porn addiction has not felt compelled in 6mo.
The 2% of my life feels more like 0.2% now. Only took 2–3 weeks, surprisingly.
A woman in SF tech is no longer a pushover!
Having engaged in 9+ years of coaching and therapy with varying levels of success, I’m probably one of the toughest clients
A founder had the first week in his life without procrastination.
An AI engineer avoids fewer conflicts and expresses more professional disagreements.
A consultant no longer overcommits to stuff she doesn’t actually want to do.
An AI policy researcher is handling a new major role that he would’ve previously found overwhelming:
I can now say no to things that don't serve me.
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Inspired by Predictive Processing
The approach draws from predictive processing (“the brain is a multi-layer prediction machine” —Scott Alexander), Alfred Adler, and independent research. Most interpersonal issues can be resolved by unlearning locally optimal insecurities.
I Am Not A Therapist. (Ironically, I train therapists.) This service supports personal growth and professional development; it is not therapy or medical treatment. Confidentiality: I use shared information to improve practice; identifying details always remain confidential.