ORIGINAL: I used to be anxious, insecure, romantically validating-seeking, overwhelmed by emotions, avoidant, depressed, in chronic pain, etc. I unlearned it. Then I wondered: “How could it’d have been 10x easier?”
I created my own models drawing from Predictive Processing, and now I help founders, execs, and people building in public deeply unlearn their most painful emotional issue— especially when years of coaching, therapy, and meditation fell short.
UPDATED 2025.05.15:
At the founding, this service was “100% bounty” — all payment literally forbidden until long-term results.
I learned two things from running this experiment:
First, there are people who are best served by more routine paths, like talk therapy or self-help apps, and then there are people who are serious.
Second, even with serious people, results require both our inputs: my insight and your effort.
The structure now reflects this.
Payment is committed: half at beginning, and half at bounty, at the time of your genuine satisfaction with results.
6 weeks of deep unlearning with substantial take-home work. You may choose from two tiers:
$30k (priority)
$12k
Introduce yourself: Twitter DM or email chris@chrislakin.com
Every week I had some new ridiculous, fun, stupid project that I had others rallied around. It's exactly the stuff I pictured doing a long time ago but never really did.
Engineer, lifelong social anxiety (video)
And now I think it's just feels much more like, oh, okay, here's somebody who I like. And I'm gonna just express however it is that I'm feeling in the moment. [...] I have a girlfriend now. We met in person and I asked her out.
SF founder, lifelong romantic insecurity (video)
I used to get triggered by very small things…
Rationalist, lifelong oversensitivity (video)
Supports professional development and personal growth; not medical treatment or therapy. Confidentiality: Identifying details kept private. Company billing available.