feel secure, pay when satisfied
to validate my research, i began offering “pay-on-results” coaching.
people have paid $58k once they felt satisfied ($28k in the last month). some of their shifts:
“net suffering has greatly diminished” ($15k)
lifelong procrastination → first week without ($7.5k+)
“expressing attraction feels fun now” ($6k)
lifelong anxiety → friends calling them “adventurous.” ($3k)
pushover → assertive ($3k+)
increased flow during work ($7.5k+)
“in crisis” → “light and hopeful” ($8k+) ………
want to feel secure in all social situations, cure procrastination, or ________?
best for lifelong goals you still haven’t achieved despite years of effort.
place a bounty, work with us, and pay it whenever you feel satisfied. we’re currently hunting ~$730k in bounties.
I used to get triggered by very small things [others] would say or do… Now I just laugh.
One of my new friends said, “You’re so adventurous.” That shocked me… If you were to ask my high school friends that's not a word they would use.
deep change in posture, the resonance of my voice, my ability to stay in connection with others… Pretty much everyone I know has commented
results may occur more quickly than you expect
bounty can be a monthly subscription, one-time payment, % gained income, etc.
doesn't work for all cases — we say when we can't help
temporarily waitlisting most applications (except most urgent) while we hire and train more coaches to meet demand
referral thank: receive 5% as people you refer pay when satisfied
partial (completely refundable) deposit required after first effects
apply even if your goal is unclear
confidentiality: information shared in conversations helps understand patterns and improve practice — identifying details kept confidential
This service is for personal growth and development. It is not therapy, medical treatment, or a substitute for professional healthcare. Please consult qualified healthcare professionals for medical or mental health concerns.
about me & the research
about me: started this service in july 2024 to validate the research, and coach ~8 hours/wk. used to be depressed, anxious, insecure, emotionally numb, boundary-challenged, suffering from chronic pain, avoidant, etc… outgrown now, but could’ve been quicker and easier. got to work, write about theory, and now help others :). in spare time i run unhinged social events in san francisco. twitter @chrischipmonk
even with the results we’ve seen so far, 2–5x improvements may still be possible?
about the research: This is technical alignment research. I use human alignment to understand general alignment: “What allows decentralized systems (humans, groups, AIs, etc.) to align and operate effectively?” I also advise a (currently stealth) aligned AI company in this capacity.
Research draws from Predictive Processing (“the brain is a multi-layer prediction machine” —Scott Alexander) and Alfred Adler’s legacy, but mostly from experience and independent research:
why “pay when satisfied”? hard evidence for effectiveness + incentive-alignment.
people we’ve helped
lifelong anxiety →
If you were to ask my high school friends that’s not a word they would use.
before our one session he tried 8 years of therapy and 1 year of seeking “scary situations”.
when he felt ready, he paid his $3k bounty.
“in crisis” → “light and hopeful”
woman in tech:
I have a history of complex trauma and have spent most of my life terrified and depressed. I'd also read countless self-help books and have seen a few therapists. I met Chris when my life and relationship were both in crisis […]
I'm generally more compassionate with myself [now], I am okay with myself feeling fear, hurt, angry, etc. without taking that as an indication that something is seriously wrong in my life […]. I've also become better at talking about relationship problems with my partner […]
I used to resent the way my life turned out, and was also afraid of stopping the resentment because I worried that it would make me complacent. Chris has helped me lose some of the resentment, and I didn't become complacent at all -- in fact, I'm doing more self-improvement and productive things now.
I definitely don't live in bliss every day, but I don't feel that my life or my relationship is in crisis anymore. Things feel light and hopeful.
$8k paid so far.
“expressing attraction feels fun now”
founder in SF:
After working with Chris, I learned One Weird Trick to go after what I really want and feel okay no matter what happens.
This is a new skill I didn’t learn in 3 years of IFS therapy.
I already feel more confident being myself and expressing romantic interest — and I already have twice, that's new.
previously he was blocked on romance his whole life. goal: “owning my desire”. $6k paid (actually he still owes $2.5k due to liquidity).
1/18: interview recorded, now editing.
pushover → assertive
woman in tech:
I went to Chris with a torrent of responsibilities and a key decision looming ahead of me this month. I felt overwhelmed, upset, and I didn’t want just talk
Having engaged in 9+ years of coaching and therapy with varying levels of success, I’m probably one of the toughest clients — equal parts hopeful and skeptical. Chris created an incredibly open space where I could easily tell him if I didn’t know something, or couldn’t feel something, or if I’m overthinking. He also has an uncanny sense of intuition on these things and a strong attunement to being actually effective
The results are already telling: a disappointment that might’ve made me emotionally bleed and mope for a month was something I addressed in the matter of a couple of days with only a scoop of emotional self-doubt instead of *swimming* in self-torture. The lag time of actually doing things to be there for myself was significantly quicker, warmer, and more effective
To-dos that felt very heavy lightened up considerably and began to feel fun again and as ways of connecting!
I’ve now started to predict happier things ahead with more vivid, emotionally engaged, and realistic detail. I’ll continue being intensely focused this year for the outcomes I want, but I’m actually looking forward to it! Will reflect back on Month 2!
also she used to be a pushover and isn’t anymore. we’ll record a video in a few months.
4 months * $1k/mo paid so far.
“Pretty much everyone I know has commented on the change.”
he had already tried most of the TPOT meditation advice, so wanted to see if my approach could help, pro bono.
increased flow during work
an engineer in sf had a 75 min session, said it was “phenomenal”, and later sent $7.5k. bounty in progress: $15k.
“net suffering has greatly diminished”
founder in SF. $15k paid after results.
eliminating unwanted habit
The 2% of my life feels more like 0.2% now. Only took 2–3 weeks, surprisingly
unwanted habit has nearly ceased since october 2024. $1.5k paid so far of $12k bounty spread over 3 years. (just as much is held as refundable deposit.)
lifelong procrastination → first week without
a founder had the first week in his life without procrastinating, etc. $7.5k paid so far of a $15k bounty.
clarity
i’ve always done too much stuff i actually don’t want. but not in the last month.
10% net income after each month she feels satisfied. $0.6k paid (1 month) so far.
conflict-avoidant → conflict-seeking
an AI engineer has become somewhat more conflict-seeking and able to express disagreement at work. $2.5k paid so far.
saying no + handling big projects
I can now say no to things that don't serve me. And I've taken on a major role that would have previously been overwhelming — but I'm handling it well.
AI policy researcher paid $2k so far.
more soon
this service is only a few months old so most client results haven’t paid yet.
the process
we focus on the present
any sessions last as long as they need (often up to 4 hours, for efficiency)
in some cases, only texting is necessary
in your life, you’ll “try on” desired states to find blocks
more is shared in the videos; all will be written down eventually.