Incentive Aligned: Resolve Your Lifelong Issue
Payment is forbidden until you feel genuinely satisfied with lasting results.
I used to be anxious, insecure, validating-seeking, overwhelmed by emotions, avoidant, depressed, in chronic pain, etc. After I worked to outgrow these, I wondered: “Could this have been way easier?”
I created my own simpler models drawing from Predictive Processing, now I help founders, AI people, and highly agentic individuals resolve their most painful emotional issues— especially when years of therapy, IFS, and meditation fell short. Testimonials and videos below:
I used to get triggered by very small things… Now I just laugh…
Expressing attraction feels fun now.
I don't feel my life or my relationship is in crisis anymore. Things feel light and hopeful.
This service is offered on a 100% performance bonus aka “bounty” basis: Payment is forbidden until you feel genuinely satisfied with lasting results. The goal is to align financial incentives with personal growth to the greatest extent.
Note: Bounties must be 5 or 6 figures. I love helping people who are serious, but I receive extraordinary inbound and spend of most of my time doing R&D.
Questions? Text on WhatsApp or email chris@chrislakin.com
Who this is for
You like my vibe, have the “feel your feelings” skill, are willing to peer into intense and aversive emotions if necessary, have hours to dedicate, and ideally have “tried everything else already”. You are ready to resolve your most painful emotional issue.
What this is
I facilitate the unlearning of insecurities. You can use this skill to unlearn every trigger and become securely attached with life itself. Some prefer to learn the skill in one session and do the rest on their own. Unlearning any individual trigger is very quick, unlearning all major triggers usually takes a few dozen of hours. You will know how and why it works.
Aligned incentives
We explore the best possible outcome of working together.
We use this tool to reveal the maximum valuation of success.
You choose how much “equity” to share with me.
If I accept, we work together for as long as it takes, generally 1–10 sessions. Incentives are aligned with efficacy and speed.
A small voluntarily refundable deposit is required. All other payment is forbidden until you feel genuinely satisfied with lasting results.
Optional: Past clients have found the most valuable results to be ones they didn’t know were possible. You may also incentivize reoslution of problems you didn’t know you had.
By Chris Lakin
Why did this start? | Why BOUNTIES? | What’s Chris’s deal?
I Am Not A Therapist. (Though, ironically, I train therapists in my methods.) This service supports personal growth and professional development; it is not therapy or medical treatment. Confidentiality: I use shared information to improve practice; identifying details always remain confidential.
Testimonials
Testimonials are prohibited until months after working together.
A man at a prediction market conference had been stuck despite 8 years of therapy and 1 year of seeking “scary situations”. He only needed one session and I interviewed him six months later:
One of my new friends said, “You're so adventurous.” That shocked me… If you were to ask my high school friends that’s not a word they would use.
Every week I had some new ridiculous, fun, stupid project that I had others rallied around. It's exactly the stuff I kind of pictured doing but never really did.
Full interview:
A founder in SF had been stuck despite 2 years (120 hours) of IFS therapy, retreats, and hundreds of hours of meditation. After five sessions:
Previously, I would freeze up or feel anxious about how I should act. And now I think it's just feels much more like, oh, okay, here's somebody who I like. And I'm gonna just express however it is that I'm feeling in the moment. And I'm just having more fun.
Expressing attraction feels fun now.
—Full interview with timestamps.
A man had been stuck despite talk therapy, CBT, and IFS. After three sessions:
I used to get triggered by very small things that some of the people surrounding me would say or do… would incapacitate me for 48 hours, I would have to shut myself in my room. Now I just laugh…
—Full interview with timestamps.
A man had been stuck despite trying most of the tpot meditation advice:
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A founder in SF had previously tried 100s of hours of meditation and other coaching:
Periods of flow in everyday life are more frequent and reliable than ever.
I’m less nervous and tense around people.
A woman in tech had previously tried multiple therapists, countless books, and antidepressants:
I don't feel my life or my relationship is in crisis anymore. Things feel light and hopeful.
An engineer now experiences significantly more flow while working.
A man with a multi-decade porn addiction has not felt compelled in 6mo.
The 2% of my life feels more like 0.2% now. Only took 2–3 weeks, surprisingly.
A woman in SF tech is no longer a pushover!
Having engaged in 9+ years of coaching and therapy with varying levels of success, I’m probably one of the toughest clients
A founder had the first week in his life without procrastination.
An AI engineer can express more professional disagreements due to being less conflict avoidant.
A consultant no longer overcommits to stuff she doesn’t actually want to do.
An AI policy researcher is handling a new major role that he would’ve previously found overwhelming:
I can now say no to things that don't serve me.
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Inspired by Predictive Processing
The approach draws from predictive processing (“the brain is a multi-layer prediction machine” —Scott Alexander), Alfred Adler, and independent research. The core idea is that almost all interpersonal issues can be resolved by unlearning locally optimal emotional insecurities:
This work requires a minimum proficiency in the skill of feeling your feelings. We’ll check on the intro call and I will provide resources if you don’t have it yet.
My skills help best when years of therapy, IFS, meditation, and other approaches haven’t resolved the issue.