Popular conceptions of “boundaries” don't make sense

I spent hundreds of hours thinking about boundaries and ran two related AI safety workshops. All because every explanation of boundaries I had ever heard contradicted itself.

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Setting boundaries can feel effortless

Claim #4 and #5 especially:

How I’d rewrite The Courage to be Disliked

I didn't have to avoid you; I was just insecure

Social anxiety isn't about being liked