The first time we spoke, you asked me some questions that felt really invasive. I didn’t want that to happen again, so I avoided you the entire following year. So when you said “Hi” at a party and suggested catching up, I hesitated. But curiosity won out.
Thank you for articulating this -- I seem to be in a very similar place right now.
It's almost as if anxious attachment creates avoidant attachment to protect itself.
lol what this is why attachment theory makes little sense to me. we don't care about attachment styles we care about BECOMING SECURE