Something good about this but also the 2nd sentiment can easily come from someone who is infatuated and insecurely obsessed. A stable commitment is, as far as I can tell, made out of the recognition that THIS is worth betting on, given everything else you know about the world.
Source: had a first marriage. Just got married a 2nd time and everybody who was there seems to think I know what I'm doing (I know better, but I'm pretty sure I know enough.)
But then ONCE you've committed, then HARD YES. That person becomes essential, and is not to be compared to other people (but perhaps still compared: to the moon, or to goddesses, or to songs).
"Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” - Jubal Harshaw, from Stranger in a Strange Land, by Robert A. Heinlein.
I reverse engineer love by looking inwards how I feel about my dog - she isn't the "most obedient", but she is essential
Something good about this but also the 2nd sentiment can easily come from someone who is infatuated and insecurely obsessed. A stable commitment is, as far as I can tell, made out of the recognition that THIS is worth betting on, given everything else you know about the world.
Source: had a first marriage. Just got married a 2nd time and everybody who was there seems to think I know what I'm doing (I know better, but I'm pretty sure I know enough.)
But then ONCE you've committed, then HARD YES. That person becomes essential, and is not to be compared to other people (but perhaps still compared: to the moon, or to goddesses, or to songs).
Oh yes, I agree with this now.
Unlearning insecurities posts coming soon:)
"Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” - Jubal Harshaw, from Stranger in a Strange Land, by Robert A. Heinlein.
Omg, it's so adorable! And so true! Love it! - essentially ;)