get your emotional security overhauled (experimental!)
This session was significantly more productive than the last 6 months of professional CBT and talk therapy I did combined.
— Camille [We did a three-hour session once.]
I've started facilitating emotional security overhauls.
This is not coaching: Most recipients feel more emotionally secure in a single session.
Your communication style made it easy to identify and release limiting beliefs. I felt noticeably more secure after just a few hours.
— Josh [We did a three-hour session once.]
experimental overhaul now available
If you feel really anxious (about anything), or like your emotions are “getting in the way”, we will likely make a lot of progress with you in a single evening.
This process is particularly good for social anxiety and insecurity. It can also help with any persistent psychological issue or suffering.
However, if you aren’t acutely aware of your feelings, then that’s much more experimental for me and we’ll likely progress slower. Because if you’re avoiding your feelings, you’re probably also avoiding psychological growth and other things.
I will facilitate for you if:
you have a problem,
you are excited to experiment,
you will meet me in-person in San Francisco (or are very excited about remote),
and one of the following:
If your problem is solved, you are willing to pay me.
I only want to be paid if your problem is solved. This aligns my incentives towards facilitating maximum growth for you in minimum time. I do not want to be paid if you do not grow! My current minimum is $3,000.1
free or reduced if you do high-impact work (email me)
you’re a close friend of mine
More reviews
The session was helpful long term — not in terms of it immediately takes away the stagnation feeling — but more you were implanting a new way of thinking / interacting with my feelings — which provided a great toolbox for self-resolution in the future.
I like how you helped me connect with my unconscious feelings and get insights out of them. And how you were asking “so how do you want to feel?” That question immediately pointed out the direction to get “unstuck”. Typically when you are stuck you just end up feeling bad/overwhelmed about being stuck. Thinking about the ideal “feeling” feels like an immediate pull out of the stagnation
It was also helpful in me realizing ohhh so this is what I want […] and what I’m afraid of.
- W [We spoke for 3 hours over a month.]
The majority of single-session recipients have reported significant improvement in:
secure attachment
conflict skills; social anxiety
self-love / self-rejection
Some have also reported improvements in chronic pain, less clinginess to their sense of self, less clinginess to their sense of past and future, and more present-moment awareness.
N [a few weeks after our 2h session]:
I have been noticing myself putting more weight in my personal preferences today. […] feeling very at peace with rejection after putting attention on […] the fear which led to thoughts like 'other people not liking my preferences or accepting me doesn't mean I can't love those preferences and myself'.
N [after an additional 1h session]:
the shifts I felt after our session yesterday still feel quite significant. Particularly the frame of 'your system blocks off certain things (body sensations, actions, situations, etc) for your protection at various resolutions, and "pushing an edge" often means entering an area that was blocked off to see which things are actually safe or not, to get a higher resolution picture.
Get overhauled
email me chris@chrislakin.com or ask in-person.
The overhaul process
My goal is to facilitate emotional security overhauls in a single session. It usually takes about 3 hours to go deep in a way that lasts.
You tell me about your problem and what you want instead. (Do you want the state of the world to change, or do you want to feel better no matter how the world is?)
You feel the sensations in your body that represent what you want. (These sensations represent your unconscious pattern predictors and are necessary for deep change.)
Socratic dialogue: You share what you feel, and I ask you the right questions at the right times.
You gain emotional security. (Through considering my Socratic questions, you unlearn unconscious predictions of, “In order for me to feel how I want to feel, the world/other people must do what I want.”)
We ensure growth lasts by “red-teaming” your unconscious. What situation, if you were in it now, would make you maximally anxious? We repeat the process above.
In the majority of cases, you gain significant emotional security.
The theory
Most of my models about psychological growth are yet to be posted, but this short post describes the basics:
Principles for psychological growth
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