There's this popular idea that socially anxious folks are just dying to be liked.
This is spot on—speaking from experience.
This is one of those “obvious” things that nonetheless needs to be pointed out because people are often poor at understanding their own behaviour
Almost correct (in my experience).
My process: be charming/meeting people-self --> people like me --> withdraw/be silent to protect being liked (a.k.a. optimize for not being disliked)
Simple, beautiful insight, connected to the right metaphors/analogies.
This is spot on—speaking from experience.
This is one of those “obvious” things that nonetheless needs to be pointed out because people are often poor at understanding their own behaviour
Almost correct (in my experience).
My process: be charming/meeting people-self --> people like me --> withdraw/be silent to protect being liked (a.k.a. optimize for not being disliked)
Simple, beautiful insight, connected to the right metaphors/analogies.