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This is spot on—speaking from experience.

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Andrew's avatar

This is one of those “obvious” things that nonetheless needs to be pointed out because people are often poor at understanding their own behaviour

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Lee Chen's avatar

Almost correct (in my experience).

My process: be charming/meeting people-self --> people like me --> withdraw/be silent to protect being liked (a.k.a. optimize for not being disliked)

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NikisName's avatar

Simple, beautiful insight, connected to the right metaphors/analogies.

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